What a wonderful post Tanja and so helpful on many different levels. I hadn't heard "It's OK" before, and it was a great song to accompany your post. I must get the Jia Jang book but don't think I'm up to the 100 day challenge. It's certainly a challenge asking to do the security announcement on a flight. How brave were you to do this? You're probably now on some type of terror watch list! I might start by offering chewing gum. It would be good to be rejection proof. I'm not flying anymore but I may start by doing a security announcement to the dogs in the car!!
Tanja! Dealing with rejection has made me a stronger person and here's my example. First, my friend circle diminished during the scamdemic, so I have fewer people to do things with. . Second, I'm the person who always arranges social events/outings /weekends.
I love comedy. I love to laugh. So, there is a small comedy club near my house. I wanted to go and asked a friend and then she asked another friend. The three of us went and had a good time. They were so happy I invited them! However, they both travel frequently and I knew I couldn't count on them for more trips to the club. I started asking other friends and they all said no, with reasonable excuses (illness, visitors, etc.) This one friend though, has said no more than three times (yet said ask her next time!) so I stopped asking and now I go BY MYSELF! I'm a bit of an introvert and I don't like going places alone. But going alone has worked out for me and given my courage to to other things alone. In fact, the owner of the club always has "my table" ready with a reserved sign on it and I get special treatment (free tickets!), so now I don't want anyone to join me!
Interestingly, now that friend keeps bringing up how she hasn't been to the comedy club and I just nod my head in agreement. I'm not chasing after people anymore. My next excursion will be to an art museum and one day I will take myself on a weekend to a nice place in a neighboring state.
What a wonderful post Tanja and so helpful on many different levels. I hadn't heard "It's OK" before, and it was a great song to accompany your post. I must get the Jia Jang book but don't think I'm up to the 100 day challenge. It's certainly a challenge asking to do the security announcement on a flight. How brave were you to do this? You're probably now on some type of terror watch list! I might start by offering chewing gum. It would be good to be rejection proof. I'm not flying anymore but I may start by doing a security announcement to the dogs in the car!!
Tanja! Dealing with rejection has made me a stronger person and here's my example. First, my friend circle diminished during the scamdemic, so I have fewer people to do things with. . Second, I'm the person who always arranges social events/outings /weekends.
I love comedy. I love to laugh. So, there is a small comedy club near my house. I wanted to go and asked a friend and then she asked another friend. The three of us went and had a good time. They were so happy I invited them! However, they both travel frequently and I knew I couldn't count on them for more trips to the club. I started asking other friends and they all said no, with reasonable excuses (illness, visitors, etc.) This one friend though, has said no more than three times (yet said ask her next time!) so I stopped asking and now I go BY MYSELF! I'm a bit of an introvert and I don't like going places alone. But going alone has worked out for me and given my courage to to other things alone. In fact, the owner of the club always has "my table" ready with a reserved sign on it and I get special treatment (free tickets!), so now I don't want anyone to join me!
Interestingly, now that friend keeps bringing up how she hasn't been to the comedy club and I just nod my head in agreement. I'm not chasing after people anymore. My next excursion will be to an art museum and one day I will take myself on a weekend to a nice place in a neighboring state.