Hi! I'm sure no one needs to be reminded that indecision can be just as consequential as a decision. And limiting my consideration to decisions of substantial consequence, having learned to trust my intuition in my 55 years, I can't bring myself to rely on anything else. Weighing pros and cons, as referenced by Reuben would be paralyzing and always seems to create the same dilemma presented by The Clash in "Should I Stay or Should I Go." I think my wife uses that method, and has probably saved me from myself on occasion.
By my way of thinking about things, If I had done that, I'd still be where I was 365 days ago. Instead, I found a new job, quit my old one, relocated cross country, bought a 120 year old farmhouse in need of major rehabilitation. If you put the pros and cons on paper, you would think I was a moron. But when my wife and I talk about this and the possible consequences that have yet to come to pass, her words are, "it had to be done." We talk enough, and she knows what was in my head.
Thank you so much for your feedback, which is very much appreciated. I am also thrilled to hear that good decision with the support of your wife have seemed to have significantly changed your life for the better. And no, I would never think of anyone as a moron for trying to make the best decisions for themselves. If my post came across implying that, I will happily apologise. Thank you for sharing and wishing you a wonderful weekend.
Tanja - you always write such interesting posts and are the master of the simple title line. I really like the Robert Louis Stevenson quote and I suppose your post also could have been titled "consequences".- because consequences always flow from decisions and sometimes (when we are rash), the consequences can be severe.
Some make decisions using a check list of pluses and minuses but I think that it is wise sometimes to act spontaneously in response to something that is on your heart and not try to work out the details. Your mind sometimes tries to talk you out of action and it is evident from your post that it was a very significant and important decision. Thanks for sharing a little of your story which will make your readers reflect our their decisions.
Thank you, Reuben, I am happy you enjoyed this post. I know I may have only scratched the surface and it’s true that we often try to rationalise our initial intuition - that often shows us the right direction.
Hi! I'm sure no one needs to be reminded that indecision can be just as consequential as a decision. And limiting my consideration to decisions of substantial consequence, having learned to trust my intuition in my 55 years, I can't bring myself to rely on anything else. Weighing pros and cons, as referenced by Reuben would be paralyzing and always seems to create the same dilemma presented by The Clash in "Should I Stay or Should I Go." I think my wife uses that method, and has probably saved me from myself on occasion.
By my way of thinking about things, If I had done that, I'd still be where I was 365 days ago. Instead, I found a new job, quit my old one, relocated cross country, bought a 120 year old farmhouse in need of major rehabilitation. If you put the pros and cons on paper, you would think I was a moron. But when my wife and I talk about this and the possible consequences that have yet to come to pass, her words are, "it had to be done." We talk enough, and she knows what was in my head.
Thank you so much for your feedback, which is very much appreciated. I am also thrilled to hear that good decision with the support of your wife have seemed to have significantly changed your life for the better. And no, I would never think of anyone as a moron for trying to make the best decisions for themselves. If my post came across implying that, I will happily apologise. Thank you for sharing and wishing you a wonderful weekend.
Tanja - you always write such interesting posts and are the master of the simple title line. I really like the Robert Louis Stevenson quote and I suppose your post also could have been titled "consequences".- because consequences always flow from decisions and sometimes (when we are rash), the consequences can be severe.
Some make decisions using a check list of pluses and minuses but I think that it is wise sometimes to act spontaneously in response to something that is on your heart and not try to work out the details. Your mind sometimes tries to talk you out of action and it is evident from your post that it was a very significant and important decision. Thanks for sharing a little of your story which will make your readers reflect our their decisions.
Thank you, Reuben, I am happy you enjoyed this post. I know I may have only scratched the surface and it’s true that we often try to rationalise our initial intuition - that often shows us the right direction.