Thanks Tanja for sharing with us. It's only a brave person who can just write a post titled death! Loved the photo which grasps the transcendence of everything when you glimpse into eternity. The Dash was a wonderful poem and the song caught something of the challenge of being a daughter.
One thing that struck me was the impact that your father's decision must have had on you and your sister. Obviously much that we don't know but it must have been that at the heart of everything in his life was fear. It struck me how much that fear can impact our lives and prevent us from taking action. It is a salutary lesson for us all and also the fact that despite what must have been a painful journey for you, your are respectful about your father and ultimately can approach this with forgiveness rather than bitterness. Behind your father's story and what you have left unsaid are important life lessons for us. Bless you as you seek to understand your new role as an "elder". Importantly, your "dash" already has been significant.
I agree that it is part of our culture war in some ways. Our mobile society has killed the extended family which used to be so supportive and helped keep couples together once grandchildren arrived. The chase for money and perhaps fame has hurt us all.
As a society we are failing upwards!
I relate to your feelings as I too had a father who was very difficult to get close to. His old wounds were hard to heal the longer he let them fester Unaddressed.
Thank you for your vulnerability as well as beautiful music and a lovely poem that strikes at the heart of it all! God bless!!
I understand your sadness and wishing to write about it. That can help process something which seems so unnatural , not to know your own father has died. Both my parents are now dead and I have no or little contact with my 3 siblings, e.g one Christmas card . I sometimes wonder if I will be told if they have died ? I accepted years ago , that it was better to have no contact than be continually hurt by failed efforts to connect. ❤️🩹 Thank you for sharing your daze and sadness, know you are not alone in this weakening of our family ties, its part of the Culture war that is underway.
My condolences, Tanja.
Thank you 🙏🏼
Thanks Tanja for sharing with us. It's only a brave person who can just write a post titled death! Loved the photo which grasps the transcendence of everything when you glimpse into eternity. The Dash was a wonderful poem and the song caught something of the challenge of being a daughter.
One thing that struck me was the impact that your father's decision must have had on you and your sister. Obviously much that we don't know but it must have been that at the heart of everything in his life was fear. It struck me how much that fear can impact our lives and prevent us from taking action. It is a salutary lesson for us all and also the fact that despite what must have been a painful journey for you, your are respectful about your father and ultimately can approach this with forgiveness rather than bitterness. Behind your father's story and what you have left unsaid are important life lessons for us. Bless you as you seek to understand your new role as an "elder". Importantly, your "dash" already has been significant.
Thank you, Reuben, not sure though if I am feeling very brave at this time. I do appreciate that my dash already seems to matter. 🙏🏼
Really sorry to read this Tanja, you've had a very difficult start to the year.
Thank you, Jon 🙏🏼
I agree that it is part of our culture war in some ways. Our mobile society has killed the extended family which used to be so supportive and helped keep couples together once grandchildren arrived. The chase for money and perhaps fame has hurt us all.
As a society we are failing upwards!
I relate to your feelings as I too had a father who was very difficult to get close to. His old wounds were hard to heal the longer he let them fester Unaddressed.
Thank you for your vulnerability as well as beautiful music and a lovely poem that strikes at the heart of it all! God bless!!
Thank you for your kind words, Patti 🙏🏼
I understand your sadness and wishing to write about it. That can help process something which seems so unnatural , not to know your own father has died. Both my parents are now dead and I have no or little contact with my 3 siblings, e.g one Christmas card . I sometimes wonder if I will be told if they have died ? I accepted years ago , that it was better to have no contact than be continually hurt by failed efforts to connect. ❤️🩹 Thank you for sharing your daze and sadness, know you are not alone in this weakening of our family ties, its part of the Culture war that is underway.
Thank you Susan, for your kind words 🙏🏼
A very sad post to read. Thinking of you with best wishes.
Thank you Tim!