ONE TIME TOO MANY
WHAT IS YOUR TIPPING POINT?
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” — Albert Einstein
What is your tipping point? How much does it take to get to that one breaking point? Where does your tolerance for lies, deceit, and abuse end?
These questions apply to all aspects of life. Let’s just take the current situation - even if we are made to believe we are getting back to “normal”. How much will it take before the public is fed up? How much more will it take before the governments abuse their power one time too many? How much more can the people take and endure before it comes to a breaking point? How much is one time too many? How much more of this nonsense can people bear without a riot? How long until all this negative energy, that has been building up for the past years needs to find release?
How much does it take?
Even the most loyal, sweet, and patient dog will bite if you treat it badly and kick it one time too many… It will turn on you and tear you to shreds. What makes the governments of this world believe they can keep pestering their people without consequences? How long until people wake up and realize it is not about saving lives and protecting people? How long before the powder keg we sit on explodes?
The situation is not getting better and it is taking its toll on our social life, our social behavior, and our relationships.
Interesting that in relationships with others - be it a friendship or a romantic relationship - we usually have a much higher tolerance for bull shit - as we want to believe in others and in their being good, caring, and loyal - but we all do have a tipping point. We eventually lose the rose-colored glasses and begin to see clearly again.
A great example of how liberating it can feel to finally see with clarity again is this scene from one of my favorite romcoms (yes, I love them) “The Holiday”. It shows so beautifully what can happen when you have been pushed that one time too many.
But why does it sometimes take so long? What makes us hold on and still hope for a good outcome, even when your head knows from day one that there is absolutely nothing to gain? Why do intelligent and independent people fall for others who are absolutely incapable of loving anyone but themselves, the ones that want it all without being made accountable, the ones that don't want to face the consequences of their actions, the ones that have no empathy for others whatsoever, the ones that simply don't care how much they hurt others and still manage to victimize themselves?
Sounds familiar?
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These people can be so very charismatic, especially when they want something from you. They have the ability to dangle that carrot in front of your face, pulling it away at the last moment every single time. They only get active when they fear you might be drifting away. It is amazing what they will then do to win you back. As soon as they feel safe again you are treated just as disparagingly as before. They come back to you when they need something, feast on you like a tick, and as soon as they are satisfied they drop off and leave you behind - empty and sick. They use you as a fountain of youth, or as a sanatorium where they heal, you become their sanctuary but never their home. These people make you feel needed and appreciated - at least as long as their advantage is bigger than their investment - and you fall for it again and again - until it happens one time too many! It is then that you start to find your self-love again and realize that there is no return on investment. The good times do not make up for the bad times anymore and it doesn't matter how much you were there for someone, they were usually not there when you needed them. That is the moment you need to let go and if you have it in you, let go with love of toxic and one-sided friendships and relationships. And it is ok to miss these people and to wish things could be different.
All of this is also happening on a larger scale - a global scale to be precise. Have you noticed how our freedoms have been curtailed, restricted, and taken away bit by bit in the past two years? Have you noticed the little changes, how we are being conditioned to accept being constantly tracked and traced - of course only for our own good? Have you noticed that in many places you cannot pay in cash anymore, even the smallest amounts? Unfortunately many do not even seem to realize that this is happening and find it perfectly “normal” or are not bothered by these “minor” changes and restrictions. Then once in a while, with a grand gesture, a little something was given back to us, usually with even more conditions attached, and most people did not care to notice that the carrot that was held out to us was already rotten.
I am sick and tired of rotten carrots!
🎶My Song of the Week
I first chose a different song by Portishead but I have been listening to Lady Wray’s album almost nonstop and just had to share her fabulous song “Piece Of Me”, which goes so well with today’s letter. A huge THANKS to Leo Mascaro and his amazing Sunday Shuffle Newsletter for introducing me to Lady Wray (and other new music) His Stack is a MUST for anyone who loves good music!
For more great music, go to this Spotify playlist where you can find all the songs from the Change & Evolve Letters!
📚My Poem of the Week
Is again by T.O.W.
ONE TIME TOO MANY
There is only so much a heart can take
Before there is this final break
There comes the point of no return
When you turn away and let all memories burn.
One time too many and that broke the spell
Never again to go through that hell
Realizing he is cold, calculating, and weak
Learning to be ok that we never again will speak.
👀Impressions
This is from a beautiful walk in Kochel am See
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Have a great start to your weekend and I would love to hear from you and learn what “one time too many” means to you!
Yours
Tanja 🤗
Thanks for the insights Tanja and my guess is that there is no tipping point with these baddies. The behavioral psychologists have all the cards and seem to be able to work the angles. We were shocked here in Australia to find so few who stood up to overreach.