GHOSTING 👻

ANNOYING AND DISPARAGING

There is a phenomenon in the online world that is incredibly annoying and unpleasant but which seems to be becoming more and more common.

GHOSTING

Ghosting, also known as simmering or icing, is a colloquial term which describes the practice of ending all communication and contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said person.

My personal opinion concerning ghosting is very simple - it is a practice for infantile cowards without any respect for others and without the slightest sense of honor. These people either never had a proper education, they have forgotten it, or have simply thrown it overboard at one point - all social etiquette is simply lost.

When a relationship, friendship, communication, or contact needs to end, I believe that every person deserves at least that minimum of respect to know about it and not need to second guess or speculate - especially in a friendship.

We are living in times in which we are forced to move our lives more into the anonymous online world. Respect and simple human kindness seem to vanish a little more every day.

It apparently appears so much easier to simply play the game of the three monkeys🙈🙉🙊, not bothering about what that might do to someone else or how that makes another person feel. I am not talking about people that don’t want to understand that you want or need to end communication or a relationship and are incapable of accepting this. I am talking about simply freezing someone out because you might be too comfortable or too cowardly to give that person an explanation, or even just a simple goodbye. People should really think twice before they do that to another human being, especially if that person once meant something to them. Always take into consideration that this person has actual feelings and deserves at least some form of closure.

This thoughtlessness has the power to cause serious pain and anguish. Some things are or at least should be common decency.

Admittedly, I have had a personal experience with this phenomenon and it is all but pleasant. It’s something I just can't understand - and you know by now that I have this urge to understand things.

So I know how it feels and it really is disparaging. It is truly simple - no one deserves to be ghosted…

I believe that it is this indifference towards others that is making our society increasingly and unnecessarily cruel. Perhaps I am old-fashioned but respect and kindness for me never go out of fashion.

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🎶My Song of the Week

The perfect song for this topic and a great video worth watching!

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📚My Poem of the Week

Is by T.O.W.

Coward

You showed your true face and lost your voice

When things got difficult when we were exposed

You made a clear but cowardly choice

Throwing me aside, you felt the need for me to be disposed.

Only days before you had declared your flaming love for me

How I was woven inseparably into your being

That a life without me in it could not possibly be

And the next thing I know you are fleeing.

The act of a coward not owning up

To what he has done and how he feels

Of fear of what the outside world will see closeup

Terrified of losing his reputation so taking to his heels.

Knowing he will not ever come back

Breaks my heart in so many ways

Still in love with that coward whose heart is black

Knowing my heart will again see better days.

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👀Impressions

Another one from Lake Starnberg ❤️

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Have an amazing weekend and whatever you do, don’t ghost anyone! And if you have, it’s never too late to right a wrong. As always I would love to hear from you.

Yours

Tanja 🤗